I entered a world of practical psychology and psychotherapy through gestalt-therapy. It is a pretty good basis, one of the best for professional and personal development. Not only because gestalt-therapy is good in itself, but also because it successfully integrates all best in the world of psychotherapy in general.
During my youth I did a lot of self-education out of curiosity and the need to resolve my psychological problems, which made my life difficult to bear. Here are some of them. Low self-esteem. I did not understand nor was aware of my feelings. Difficulty in self identification, who I am as a person, man, son, friend and so on. Dependency in relationship with the opposite sex. My mind was full of unviable and negative ideas and opinions on how relationships should work. I often felt lonely and was depressed. I developed really unpleasant psychosomatic symptoms. Lack of energy, understanding of life, myself and people.
I was in deficit of adequate attention from my parents and teachers, which resulted in development of internal and interpersonal complexes. In terms of personal relationship and some sort of social achievement I left much to be desired. For that reason I developed a strong motivation to study and educate myself. I read many books, watched educational lectures, talks, podcasts during four years, from 18 to 21. By the end of that time I decided to become a gestalt-therapist.
Few years later I also made up my mind to receive a psychological degree. I am very proud of what I managed to achieve as a result of my efforts. I feel a lot of gratitude to certain people, my teachers and therapists, for their work. I find it priceless and even life saving. During my childhood and adolescence, regrettably, I was not as active and fruitful as in my adulthood, since I turned eighteen, to be precise.
Before the beginning of my private practice, I worked nine years in a number of companies. To be clear, I had a job, but it was not a career. I had specific goals I needed money for to achieve them. During my youth I needed money to travel to the US, I wanted to explore the world, test myself and get new experience. After 21 the point of having a job was in being able to afford psychotherapy, training and education. Now, it has already been five years that I conduct my private practice. This is work, self-realization and a way of life, all in one.
Some clients would like to know the relationship status of a psychologist. Well, family status is not an unambiguous marker of some abilities or skills of a person. It is an important choice that we make in life. Based on this information one could make some assumptions about a person, not more. I am seven years in relationship, we’re planning to have a child.
My main work is individual psychotherapy, counselling and conducting therapeutic groups. Sometimes I work with couples. I work with adults mostly and with teenagers occasionally. Many clients of mine are foreigners, as I am fluent in English and have been immersed in Western culture through this language since my teenagehood. Russian and Ukrainian are my native languages and cultures. I don’t want to sound pompous, nonetheless, I consider this work to be my mission and calling in life. I am very happy to do useful and very much needed work in a society.
I am thirty one years old and for the last ten years I’ve studied psychology and psychotherapy. I specialize in developmental theories and age crises. I have come to my philosophy and principles by analysing my parents’ mistakes, the mistakes I made in work and life and through my education and life experience in general. I find important in my work the following. Provide relationships for a person, create special conditions during a session in which they will be able to resolve their psychological problems in an affordable and preferred way. One can unravel themselves like a puzzle, grow personally, finish constructing their identity, receive an important relationship experience (of understanding, support, acceptance, empathy, etc), get some important knowledge about themselves or the world, receive insights or work through trauma. To each their own.
Psychotherapy like politics is the art of the possible. I strive to understand, see and hear my client, and help them to understand or become aware of themselves. It is important for me to help my client differentiate what they should learn to accept in life and what makes sense to try to change. I look at a person as a complicated system. Human being is both a part of nature and a part of culture. I rely in my work on data and knowledge from natural science and humanities, trying to form a holistic, systemic vision of an individual and their psyche. One could say that I do anthropology. We are all unique in some ways and are very similar in other ways. I think it’s important to explore both your uniqueness and your ordinariness. I explore the subjective world of a client phenomenologically and the interpersonal space that is created between us during a session. I also pay attention to an objective world with its patterns, facts and realities of life, that are to be discovered and acknowledged.